Breaking The Silence

I am participating in the link up with Joy Filled Mama. She asks "If you have experienced miscarriage, please feel free to join me in "breaking the silence." If you have (or want to write up) a blog post about your precious baby, your experience, your feelings, your can link up here." So, that is what I am going to do... I am going to share and then put a link up on her page as well... We have to break the silence of miscarriages instead of suffering in the silence.

Did you know that Facebook had a break the silence event on Thursday of this past week, the 21st? I joined in on that and read a lot of posts from other mothers who had lost their little ones. This is what I posted:
In loving memory of my little angel, David 06-02-09 preborn @ 14 weeks. You'd be around 19 months today. You are missed and loved. ♥
I find comfort knowing he is with his heavenly Father. I was actually reading in my study bible (off topic- I just love this new bible that I bought on Black Friday last year. It has all kinds of topics in it.) and it has a few scriptures that has helped me out in losing our baby 2 years ago.

1. God's love encompasses the preborn and that He is involved in the development of the child in the womb.
Ps 139:13-14 NKJV
13 For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;[a]
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.
2. These preborn children although lost to earthly life, are special to God
Mark 10:14
14 But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God.
3. The "infants who never saw light" of day are at rest.
Job 3:16-17
16 Or why was I not hidden like a stillborn child,
Like infants who never saw light?

17 There the wicked cease from troubling,
And there the weary are at rest.
4. I will one day be reunited with little David Ahaziah...
2 Samuel 12:23
23 But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.”

Maybe these scriptures will help you. Please understand, that yes, I still grieve and sometimes it isn't a pretty sight. All teary eyed and breathless. I might even question WHY again. See, there is such a connection between a mama and their baby once the baby is conceived and you see that pregnancy test result. Even more so, once you hear that little heartbeat and see that first sonogram. It is definitely love at first sight. And you can't wait to see your baby on delivery day. I don't think that I will ever stop longing for just a hug or to hear him say "Mama, I need/love you." However, it does make it easier knowing that your baby is at rest and with God.

Please stop over to JoyFilledMama's Blog and read it if you would like... she has some great thoughts on this subject having had miscarriages as well. It is so important to break the silence and offer your support to those in need.

I am also joining in on a week long blog hop...won't you join us over at Homemaker By Choice.

Have a happy day,


Kathy said...

Roxie, I am so sorry for the loss of your child and the sadness you carry with you. I do understand the pain and the grief. I experienced three miscarriages. David & I always thought we'd have several children. After Matthew's birth I expected to have more children without difficulty but it was not to be. We struggled with 20+ years of infertility. I lost two babies at 7 weeks each, but my last miscarriage was at 12 weeks and it was even harder, so I can certainly identify with your loss at 14 weeks. I, too, had ultrasounds and heard the heartbeat, and was so excited, thinking I would carry this one. But it was not to be. I was 37 when I lost that little one and never expected to have another after that. Then, when I least expected it and was not even thinking about a baby, thinking I was way past that even being a possiblity, along comes my Jonathan! Every day I look at him and marvel that he is here, and I give thanks to God daily for His gift. For he is indeed a gift, he came along just when I needed him the most. I didn't think I could care for a new baby and a very sick husband, but God provides a strength we don't know we have when we need it most. My life is not always easy and I still grieve for my three lost children, and always for my husband, but at the same time I am so very thankful for my two wonderful sons. God is good, always. Even when we don't understand, He knows what we need.
Good things will come to you & your husband too, in His time. I know you have strong faith and that will see you through the tough times. All I have to do is look at my "miracle" child when I feel down or overwhelmed with sadness, and I am reminded of His loving care. Not that life is always easy, it isn't, but He will never give us more than we can bear, altho sometimes it sure feels that way!!
Forgive me for rambling, this is a subject close to my heart, and thank you for sharing your story. Wishing you many blessings!

Roxanna said...

Thanks for sharing that with me Kathy! :) I'll remember this when I am feeling down and read it again I am sure. Little Jonathan is such a cute kid. I remember when you got pregnant with him!! So glad for a great God that does know what he is doing despite what we think should happen.

Anonymous said...

I had a miscarriage in 1995. I was 42 years old, it was a first marriage for us both (3 years prior), and it took 3 years to conceive. The night we lost our precious, longed-for baby, I knew I would never conceive again. I didn't. God had another plan, and we went on to adopt two babies from a destitute Romanian orphanage. However! It was only two weeks ago that something sparked the memory and I sobbed aloud while driving the car. Cannot wait to get to heaven and hold my baby, while wanting to stay here and raise my children!

And I'm your newest GFC follower and would love a follow back.

Hugs to you,

Roxanna said...

*hugs* to you as well Mary. Thank you for following and I'll follow you back here in a second. Thanks for sharing that story. Down the road, I do want to consider adoption as well. Because it is something very close to me considering I was adopted... Again, thank you.